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This is very good advice regarding how we respond to how others act. The difference also relates to how we justify our acts to ourselves and do not grant the same kindness to others.

I think similar problems happen when we try and explain other people engaging in undesired behaviors including substance use, crime, and more. It is easier to say they are "monsters" or that they are "perverts" or "deviant."

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Hello! Your observation is very accurate. The number of variables that can lead a person to perform a behavior can be very diverse, so, in the absence of information, we resort to generalist explanations that do not speak of the context but of the person: “he is a monster or a madman”.

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We in the U.S. can practice this a whole lot more often. Thank you, Alvaro.

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Hi Sue! Don't worry about it, it's not just a US thing, it happens everywhere, in Spain we are the same. It's something human and that everyone must train for themselves.

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