Applying game theory to intimacy seems the worst scenario imaginable. First, it assumes that sex is the objective of intimacy. It further assumes that its enjoyment is one-sided, enhanced by the example of deer hunting. Is it even possible for a deer to enjoy being killed? Nor for a rabbit! Predator and prey have no place in intimate relationships. Neither is trust feasible between hunter and hunted.
The scenarios explicated herein betray the adolescent behavior behind the 'freed' sex from the sexual revolution that has polluted and cheapened our culture. The games played (pun intended) preserved the worst aspects of puritanism of pre-1960s sexual culture. What had previously been more or less light-hearted role-playing of children trying to deceive over-protective parents wherein boys pretended to be intent on deflowering chaste girls became borderline mutual rape. Becoming acquainted is no longer in the equation. Why bother with all of that? We're not trying to build anything permanent; we're just out to have a little fun.
But sex is not a game. It is serious business--adult business. The sex act is not something that lasts from a few seconds to a few hours. It's something that echoes for 20-plus years, involving care, feeding, clothing, education, expenses, and lifetime commitments. The old joke about the couple going to the doctor, the female obviously pregnant, is apropos. The young man says, "I was just poking fun, but she took me seriously."
We take it for granted that pregnancy can be avoided, but that does not mean that it has no repercussions. The physical joining of two bodies inevitably involves emotions, yearnings, connections, duties, and responsibilities, that, whether we are aware or not, affect us long-term. It's not useless baggage.
I understand what you mean, in the end it is a mathematical approximation to reality, it is not completely accurate. Reality is more complex, although the goal is, as physics does, to understand the world.
#2 hits the spot with me. I grew up learning that you always kiss your husband hello, goodbye, good morning, and good night. Even if you do it with clenched teeth. My parents were married over 50 years. I was married 30 before losing my husband. The habits that were instilled into my marriage thanks to my mom, kept my marriage strong. It’s the little things that keep things strong and secure. Mom always said ‘It not the diamonds, it’s the daisies.’ Amen, mom. Amen.
The personal experience perfectly illustrates the power of small gestures. Certainly, the most valuable thing is to build a close relationship in which you both form a team to go much further than if you were separate people. Creating that "team" does not require diamonds.
Applying game theory to intimacy seems the worst scenario imaginable. First, it assumes that sex is the objective of intimacy. It further assumes that its enjoyment is one-sided, enhanced by the example of deer hunting. Is it even possible for a deer to enjoy being killed? Nor for a rabbit! Predator and prey have no place in intimate relationships. Neither is trust feasible between hunter and hunted.
The scenarios explicated herein betray the adolescent behavior behind the 'freed' sex from the sexual revolution that has polluted and cheapened our culture. The games played (pun intended) preserved the worst aspects of puritanism of pre-1960s sexual culture. What had previously been more or less light-hearted role-playing of children trying to deceive over-protective parents wherein boys pretended to be intent on deflowering chaste girls became borderline mutual rape. Becoming acquainted is no longer in the equation. Why bother with all of that? We're not trying to build anything permanent; we're just out to have a little fun.
But sex is not a game. It is serious business--adult business. The sex act is not something that lasts from a few seconds to a few hours. It's something that echoes for 20-plus years, involving care, feeding, clothing, education, expenses, and lifetime commitments. The old joke about the couple going to the doctor, the female obviously pregnant, is apropos. The young man says, "I was just poking fun, but she took me seriously."
We take it for granted that pregnancy can be avoided, but that does not mean that it has no repercussions. The physical joining of two bodies inevitably involves emotions, yearnings, connections, duties, and responsibilities, that, whether we are aware or not, affect us long-term. It's not useless baggage.
I understand what you mean, in the end it is a mathematical approximation to reality, it is not completely accurate. Reality is more complex, although the goal is, as physics does, to understand the world.
#2 hits the spot with me. I grew up learning that you always kiss your husband hello, goodbye, good morning, and good night. Even if you do it with clenched teeth. My parents were married over 50 years. I was married 30 before losing my husband. The habits that were instilled into my marriage thanks to my mom, kept my marriage strong. It’s the little things that keep things strong and secure. Mom always said ‘It not the diamonds, it’s the daisies.’ Amen, mom. Amen.
The personal experience perfectly illustrates the power of small gestures. Certainly, the most valuable thing is to build a close relationship in which you both form a team to go much further than if you were separate people. Creating that "team" does not require diamonds.